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The animal totem hedgehog reminds us with its medicine of this parable - the hedgehog dilemma of wanting to stay warm and connected to others and each time you do, you get pricked -

I think, for most people, any kind of relationship intimate or otherwise can feel like quite a bit of work.

We long for connection but often have challenges connecting with one another. 

So we manage those missed connections and re-attempts as best we can, sometimes with success. And probably many times with no success.

This is so universal a human experience that philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer illustrated it in his 1851 work, Parerga and Paralipomena, with a parable called The Hedgehog’s Dilemma.

The parable (well worth a read!) is a metaphor about human intimacy and the inherent struggle it can take to feel close to others given our inherent natures and differences. 
(I’m sure anyone in a long-term relationship can appreciate the lesson of the parable!) 

And while everyday relationship, even at its best, can often feel like two little hedgehogs attempting and re-attempting to come close to each other for warmth and connection and sometimes getting pricked by one another, I think the metaphor has to be widened to better illustrate the experience of someone with a complex relational trauma history in a romantic relationship.

Relationships can be hard work in the best of circumstances.
Again, I can’t stress this enough: we all want safety connection and belonging in fact we cannot survive without it. 

And yet it takes work to get it right because -
You get two people together with all their inherent temperamental and preferential differences, you add work, money struggles, commutes, waxing and waning libidos, aging bodies, sleep-deprived minds, kids, mortgages, work stressors, student loan payments, seemingly endless laundry, dishes, and grocery shopping on top of it all, and your relationship, at times, will likely feel quite hard.

Again, think of the Hedgehogs in the parable: we try to move towards each other for warmth when we’re cold, but the inherent pricks of us and life can often sting and drive us apart. 

And again, I stress, that’s relationship in the best of circumstances.
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